Don't waste energy hoping for a different past

I first heard about this idea in regards to forgiveness.  I was having a hard time forgiving someone a while back, and decided I needed to figure out what it really meant to forgive - and really I wanted a check list style how to - I didn't want to challenge my brain any longer (too bad brain!). While on this search to forgive, I stumbled upon this idea of wanting to change the past and getting stuck there.  That was me!! Emotionally I wanted to change the past, the type A in me was angry, and mad and I wanted to not only change the past but I want to get revenge (I was young, and clearly not adulting well). Then all of the sudden, the light bulb went off - I was WASTING my time - something I value very much!  I could spend my time learning and growing from the past, it's not to say we should be unaware or not look back - but when you find yourself hoping that your past was different - especially if this is adding to a victim mindset and keeping you stuck - try rethinking about what energy is stirring and how helpful it is or how stuck it is. .